How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You
Came across these so-called ‘tips’ in yesterday’s paper. In six simple steps, you can supposedly make a guy “proclaim undying love for you in no time”. With a title and an opening phrase that catchy, I couldn’t resist reading the whole thing. Here we go:
1. Take good care of yourself. Stay in shape and eat a healthy diet. Make sure you are well-groomed at all times (hair, nails, makeup). If you take pride in how you look, the man in your life will take pride in that as well.
2. Be confident. Confidence is not only a man’s game. Men like women who are sure of themselves and where they are going in life. If you are not all that confident naturally, fake it until you no longer have to.
3. Figure out where your guy hangs out, and you hang out there too. Before he can fall in love with you, he has to like you first. The more we are exposed to a stimulus (person, place or thing), the more we like it.
4. Once he likes you and gets used to having you around, start to become less and less available. There is truth to the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” so make him miss you and work extra hard to have you around. Remember: things easily gotten are easily replaced.
5. When you talk to each other, look longingly into his eyes. Hold eye contact with him longer than normal, and you can trick his brain into believing he’s in love with you.
6. Make him feel like he is the only man in the world for you. Whether it’s a small note wishing him a good day, a light caress or gentle kiss, make sure he feels like he is the only man in your world. Men like the women in their lives to make them feel special, and the woman who can do that will be the one he loves.
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Seriously, I can’t help but think more than half of it sounds superficial. If you go so out of the way like that, I wonder if things will be the same after you guys hook up. Then again, since when things that happen during courtship ever last? And what’s the deal with #4? Playing hard to get is so yesterday :p I also have something to say about #2: it’s not always true. It’s okay to be nervous, and I think most guys like things to be natural, no? Hehe. Ok maybe it’s just me. I’ve no comment about the rest of the tips. If you’ve any experience, tell me they don’t work.
26 Jul 2007 narrowband
So, what makes u fall in love with a woman?
Angel took the words…question…right out of my mouth! LOL!! So what’s make YOU tick?? Though some of those steps may seem superficial but I do agree with no. 1. First impressions do count. If not, how to get the chap to come back for a second look…date, I mean?? :D
Dave, for #4 , i always human dont appreciate things that come easily to them.
Well, like they say - one man’s meat is another man’s poison. Some guys might actually like their gals to do such superficial stuff because it inflates their ego.
Does absence actually make the heart grow fonder? I don’t think a prolonged absence would work. Maybe just now and then. *wink*
So what type of girls attract you?
tsk I’m just helping all your girls fansi to ask only lor…hahaha
woman with angel face and evil body figure or either, does not apply to these tips
I don’t have to do so many things, my guy just fall for me like that. It’s natural. Haha.. I can see so many gals waiting for your answer. Maybe next post u shud write “How to make ME fall in love with you” *_^
ugh..what kind of tips are those!?? seriously disagree..no wonder u disagreed too~
Its a bit superficial right?..#1 makes it sound like fat women do not deserve to be in love
#2..”fake it till you dont have to?” yes…it may get you together, but it wont last…
#4 - I really want to know if this ‘jual mahal’ thing works or not..and #5 : what does it mean by look longingly into his eyes???
but then again..I’m no expert in this dept =)
*roftl
I’m gonna do a quickie for now.
Before I respond to all of your comments (which I’ll do later tonight), let me first thank you all - ladies *gasp - for your invaluable input. (Congratulations, you have outnumbered your male counterparts here on Narrowband.org :p)
Long night tonight (blog entry guaranteed!). Off to dinner first now, ciao!
wow.:P so many fans!
Personally, feel that some of them are true to a certain extent.
#1- definitely true. Taking good care of care of yourself = loving yourself.
If you feel good, naturally you’d be confident.No point faking it. Guess a man loves a girl who is confident enough to be her true self in front of him.
And if you really love a man, you’ll surely feel that he is the only man for you, right?
Girls like to primp up, act all feminine and proper. Surprisingly, it’s the girl who can laugh their hearts out / at themselves and do the crazy things they love that guys like.
My two cents worth:P
HEHE…. kinda old- fashioned but true… I’ve tagged u!
LOL! Bookworm! Great minds think alike! Esp. those born on the same day! ;)
D, our ‘male counterparts’ must be too shy to comment :p
Angel - I also don’t really know actually. Definitely takes more than those listed above ;p
Bkworm - First impression huh? I agree also actually, to a certain extent. It will determine whether there is a second or third date (or not).
Hui - I understand that. But I think it’s the same - we can appreciate them all the same, whether or not it was easily obtained.
Rinnah - Yeaps but how long can the girl keep inflating her man’s ego? Of course, if we’re only talking about courtship period, I think it’s a good start.
Absence make the heart grow fonder. But too much will make it wander. So, there’s a limit :p
Che-cheh - Actually hor, I very cincai wan. Don’t believe? Believe it :p As long as got feel hor, then good liao!
Yee Hui - Some people like inner beauty leh. Yea the tips didn’t mentioned about inner qualities, haha.
Cybie - Ya lor. Most of the time, it works naturally. Don’t need to specially do anything. I don’t think I’ll write that post you suggested :p
Hc - Lousy tips :p I’m sure it takes much more than those 6 listed above. However, I think the tips are good enough to ‘get things started’. #1 hor, it didn’t mention ‘fat women’ leh. As long as you’re well-groomed, you’re good to go.
Jual mahal don’t work for me. Haha. My patience limited nia :p But then hor, also depends on who lar. Remember OFC? Wah my patience limit dem high in that case. LOL.
Look longingly - I think like the Puss in Boots in Shrek 2 :p
Jasmyin - I hope it’s not a rocky floor you’re rolling on!
Charngyee - I also agree that they’re true to a certain extent. However, it definitely takes much more before the guy “proclaims undying love” for the girl.
Faking things don’t work. We can’t always put on that mask everytime we meet. It’s not real. Both parties should work towards discovering their natural self, and be just themselves when they meet.
Michelle - True, just to get things started. For me, I think it’ll take more than just those listed :p Hehe. I know I’ve been tagged. Will respond to it when I have time, kie?
Angel - Yea you’re probably right. They may be just as curious to know what women think about this list - so they play the ‘observer’ this time :p
Thank you everyone for your input, hehe.
These tips are all so yesterday. #1 and #2 are acceptable and true but #3 onwards.. lolz
Yes Victor, 3 onwards abit duh. #4 has a limit, like I pointed out to Rinnah above. #5 reminds me of Puss in Boots in Shrek 2. Those eyes. Haha.
Regarding #4, I kinda agree with the last sentence. And hence, personally, I am still not very in favour of girls courting the guys rather than the other way round. Haha.
i think the comment about being unavailable is really true. its worked for me. the more i used to ignore my now-husband the more he got curious and wondered where i am and what im doing and the more he kept calling me and asking me details of what i had been doing. and the less time i spent with him every time that we went out, the more often he asked me to go out with him. this is obvious … it worked for me wonderfully .. i was and am a busy person and didnt really mean to ignore him !! but what ever reason it was it worked :)
if you limit yourself for the boy he might come into thinking that there are infact more guys out there for you. so it may turn out into a competition that makes him try get you before anyone else gets you :)
or he might as well think you are such VIP that you cant set aside time for him. this too will give him the impression that you are more lovely and demands to be with you more …..
hahaha
thats funny but try it ..it works.. i guarranty ..and once he sais he loves you continue to behave in the same manner ..dont suddenly start hanging out with him too much
To make a guy fall in love you have to be kind of a girl jerk. You have to think a bit like a guy. But instead of being masculant, u gotta be feminine. First and for most, you have to let them choose you. Never chase a guy. But you have to make sure the guy that chooses you, is really sincerely interested, and not just in preditior mode. So my advice to you, is play a lot of games mixed with sugar and spice (the sugar should outway the spice)… Do not be the one to become attached, the trick is to get him to play into your hands so he becomes attached to you. Because I believe, a guy has to love, miss, and yearn for his girl more than she does for him, or it will never work and the relationship will be off of balance. He then looks at her as a cling on and extra wait. So the key is, to get and keep him really into you, and keep busy so the attention does not dominate your life and turn you into the Dependant one. You must keep your guard up in order to give the illusion the commitment was his idea. That way, he will need you, instead of you need him, and as a woman, you will feel in a more superior condition. As women, we must never put our selves in situations where we feel weak. We are already the more vulnerable species, and it is no secret, love is our weakness. Always remember, men are attracted to strength and confidence. Now when you tap into the power to hook the guy of your choice, remember to never be cruel or careless. The point is to give him the thrill of being weak for his dream woman. Do not take that for granted.
haha.. men just fall for me liddat.
ya, it is gud for a man to chase and win ur luv but another thing is, most guys may be in love wit a girl and dont kno how to xpress it and the girl in question may also be inlove wit the guy but finds it difficult to say bcos men are surpose to ask us the girls, whichever go for wot u want , no crime in trail, cheers
I am not quite sure if this tips would help, coz I really don’t want to take the initiative first. But I’ll try… Hope it work for me… Is there more tips that you would like to add on this page?
hi so i wanna ask dis how can one make a serious n ambitious man fall in love her