Some Thoughts on Nurin’s Case
I just read the paper and had lunch. The horrifying discovery of Nurin Jazlin’s body was received with gritted teeth by many of us, and deliberate denials by the parents, even after the DNA test concluded that the body found in the sports bag was indeed that of Nurin’s. Yesterday, Nurin’s father finally (after a long silence in a car together with his elder brother Jasni) uttered, “Enough. Bring my daughter home. I do not want her to be cut up again.” Therefore, a second DNA test will no longer be necessary.
Nurin’s father must have mustered a lot of courage, before finally giving in. There was no use denying anymore, as various tests have sufficiently confirmed the girl’s identity. My heart sank. And the nation shares his grief. As if losing a daughter to a psychopath is not enough, now everyone - including the police - is wondering why did Nurin’s parents let her wander alone in the night market. I don’t know what to say… *shakes head*. It is said that the family’s home wasn’t very spacious, so the children often went out to play. In any case, although it may seem like the parents have been negligent, I think it is unfair to question their parenting. It’s like blaming rape victims for ‘dressing provocatively’.
Anyway, Nurin’s murder shall serve as a grim reminder that our country, though peaceful, progressive and gemilang as it may seem, is home to some of the sickest paedophiles around.
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22 Sep 2007 narrowband
sigh…
dunno what to say…
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i dont like the fact that people are blaming the parents for not taking care of Nurin. Takkan want the kids to be in the house always, let them have their freedom loh. Plus, their house aint that huge to cater everyone.
But then here we are, pointing fingers all over again, a habit we never ceased to do. Our society’s not safe anymore these days, when one walk out of their house, there are chances of “unfortunate” events to happen to them. Like you said, blaming rape victims for dressing sexily. Aiyo, then those grandmas apa macam? :O *no eye see
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I don’t understand why a 8 years old can be left wandering alone in our pasar malam especially that our pasar malam is so crowded and packed with all kinds of people…
Everyone needs to refresh themselves here, everyone from we ourselves until the government! :-)
Damn f**ked up to charge the parent sunder child negligence act, when the murderer is out there running free. For coming next 2 weeks, hopefully, the psycho will be caught. Else, it will be another finger pointing game for the big boys up there.
when they confirmed it was her thru dna test, i made sure i watched the 8pm news that night for updates. and according to tv3, the police is not ruling out if the parents were hiding something from the police which includes the involvement of ‘ah long’ …
whatever it is, it’s really sad to see her treated as such. she didn’t deserve it at all.
Angel - *I also dunno what to say* ;p
Julee - Yea lar. It’s their own choice mar how they want to take care of their kids. If someone really wants to prey on little kids, then he’ll surely have his way already, there is little that can be done to stop them. This means that, even if Nurin’s parents had practised the so-called ‘good parenting’, the victim might have been somebody else’s kid instead! If it has to happen, it will happen, no matter what measures have been taken to prevent it.
Wayne - - Refer to my response to Julee above - …if it has to happen, it will happen, no matter what measures have been taken to prevent it…
For the rest of us, we may be able to ‘refresh’ ourselves, but for Nurin’s family and friends, this is something that will scar them for life. How nice if we all had a ‘Reset’ button for our lives… or better yet, the option to ‘Reformat’! ;)
Jason - There are many murderers and sex offenders out there roaming the street freely, did you know that? Some may have been caught before, but their prosecutors failed to establish a prima facie case against them. As a consequence, they’re let go free again. That’s why, we must make sure the prosecutors don’t screw up when it comes to charging criminals!
I wonder if the same will happen in Atlantuya Sharibuu’s murder trial.
Sat - Wow. Seriously, so many twists? You know, whatever the case, Nurin was definitely innocent and should not be made the victim. Brinjals and cucumbers man…, how sick could the psychopath get?
I agree that to blame the parents would be akin to blaming rape victims for dressing provocatively.
Sigh, but knowing todays society, parents do have the extra responsibility to ensure the safety of their children.Makes my stomach squirm thinking of the psychopaths running around. Sad as this incident is, it is sorta a reminder to other parents out there.
P/S My mom thought the stepdad might be hiding something.
Damn, where is the peaceful of Malaysia. But seriously the rapist too cruel to cut the body.
Some of the Journalism students discussed this matter seriously (even before the exam). In fact, even before the media officially report it was Nurin, we’ve already knew it.
*sigh*
i guess one can never be too safe. i used to roam around without my parents (which left them freaked out most of the times), but my point is, the only way you can safeguard your kids now (according to the many ‘wise’ people who are throwing blames around) is to lock them up in a glasscase with a little trap door to shove food in.
Sigh… crime again.
Seriously, if a sicko wants to commit crimes against the young and innocent, no amount of control or restrain on our kids is gonna stop these ppls from trying.
In Singapore, where parents think the school is safe, we have male teachers who preyed on their students. Some male teachers are gay and other male teachers molest or force their female students to submit to their sick desire. When such things happen, do we parents get accused for sending our kids to school? geeezzz…..
Although I do agree with everyone that the parents has enough grief for now - no need to scrutinize or point fingers, we do need to ask ourselves if the children are properly taken care of - are there proper preventive measures taken? I do remember kids running around my neighborhood when I was much younger without any adult supervision. Freedom as it such be but kids who are young an naive are easily tricked and con by one with evil intent.
Sometimes I think that the nation needs some sort of wake up call, and this is just one of them. Let’s just hope that everyone leave them alone for now and heed this ‘lesson’ so that the grief of her parents will at least not go to waste.
Charngyee - Yes of course parents have a role. In fact, any parent, if they loved their kids at all, would not want their kids to be harmed in any away. If they could, they would ensure their kids are safe at all times. Even if Nurin’s parents had indeed made a mistake, I still think it’s inappropriate to charge them for negligence, given the circumstances.
On your postscript, I find it interesting. We shall what unfolds next!
Darren - She was cut by her attacker(s)? I may have overlooked that. And I thought the use of brinjals and cucumbers were bad enough…
Pelfy - The parents fell into a state of denial. They probably had believed the test results half-heartedly. It must have been difficult for them.
Jasmyin - LOL… that’s a little bit too much. I guess that’s not their point. Maybe they had expected Nurin’s parents to walk with her at the night market. In that regard, the parents might have taken things for granted on that fateful day, but who would have known? And for that, the police are throwing the book at them…
Neo - A very abominable crime, no less…
ECL - Yes, it could have happened to anyone, if it weren’t Nurin. I like your analogy! It makes things so much easier to visualize! :p
Rae - Actually, I personally think that the least Nurin’s parents could do was to walk with her in the night market, instead of letting her wander alone. Failing to do that had indeed contributed towards this unfortunate tragedy. That said, I still feel they shouldn’t be charged under Child Act 2001.
I’m sure there are many parents out where who have been negligent before too, but lucky for them, nothing untoward happened to their children. And yes, they were not punished.
That’s why, you’re right when you say that everyone should leave them alone for now. They’ve learned a painful lesson…
I can’t believe they want to haul the parents in for negligence when there’s a paedophile on the loose.
i heard about the possibility of them being charged under Child Act 2001. first of all… Child Act 2001? this country really never ceases to amaze me.
secondly… a gentle reminder?… i give this country 2 weeks… and all shall be forgotten.
anyone still remember the ruckus during canny ong’s gruesome murder?
Zewt: Yes, I remember very clearly Canny’s murder case, because she was a close friend of mine.
Malaysians a reactive by nature. That’s all I have to say. SIGH.
A clear cut case of negligence would be if the parents left a baby in the car under the hot sun for the whole afternoon, or if they let their pet Alsatian play with their baby, stuff like that. If the parents could have foreseen that something would happen to their child if they didn’t take certain action, but yet they did not do anything about it, then there would be a proper case of negligence.
But suing the parents after their child has been horribly tortured, sexually assaulted and murdered, by a psycho killer??
Haven’t the parents suffered enough?
If this is the case, it might set a nasty precedent, and parents will be less inclined to report to the police if anything does happen to their child, lest they get sued for negligence in turn.
Alicia - It seems like many others have voiced their displeasure as well, in the newspapers, on the internet, etc. Let’s hope something good will come out of this.
Zewt - I certainly hope that’s not the case. I read that 5 suspects have been remanded. As for the Child Act, it’s ridiculous. Why couldn’t they use a little bit of discretion ar…
Giddy Tiger - I’m still terribly saddened by that incident (Canny’s murder)…
Applegal - That’s the thing. They didn’t use their discretion in making decisions. If Nurin’s parents need to be punished at all, then I think the death of their daughter should serve as a punishment itself already. Quite a severe one, at that…
Is there any psychologist here to give me any information on the Nurin’s murderer criminal psychology analysis?
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